All about "HIM"

So its been awhile since I have blogged, mostly because my dating life stalled out and other things took priority. 

If you follow me on instagram, you might have seen some pics of "him." I've gotten lots of texts and messages asking who he is. I am keeping his name and picture private and when we are ready you will get all of the good stuff. This is what I can say about him.....

About 10 years ago, he was coming to Houston for work. He was living in Florida at the time. A mutual friend of ours suggested to him that he look me up and vice versa. We actually met at church and hung out for a few days while he was in town. We kept in touch over the years and as a joke I started proposing, every few months. "Marry me!?!" I'd say. At first he would laugh and then his responses turned into "maybe" or "one day." One year I didn't propose at all and he messaged me "Uh, hello?!? Remember me!?!" (I think he secretly liked it!)

A few weeks ago (about 3 to be exact) we were talking and he mentioned that he wanted to give us a try. "What do you think?" "HELLO! I've been proposing for YEARS!!! YES!" So we started looking at tickets and found one on United for $70! So he bought it and flew here the next day! It's been a great few weeks. We are getting to know each other and having so much fun!!! I still can 't believe he is here and after all this time we are finally getting our shot! I told him once that I always thought he was the one that got away. (Go ahead and say it.....AWE!)

He's met my family, that happened the first weekend he was here. They like him! My nieces LOVE him!!! He's spending Christmas with me and my family. At first, he planned on going home after a few days, then that turned into going home next week and now its in January. The plan is that he is going to officially move here!

Are my days of kissing frogs at an end?????? Stay tuned..........

Dating Life Update

First things first, CONGRATS to all my friends who have gotten engaged or married over the past 2 weeks!!!! SO HAPPY FOR ALL YALL! NO more frogs for you! :)

It's been almost 3 weeks since my last post. I have had lots of friends ask about my dating life....so here it is....

My dating life has stalled out! Nada! Zip! Zero! Ziltch! (sigh)

At the recommendation of a friend, I got on Hinge. It's sort of like tinder. She's had lots of dates and suggested I give it a try. Nothing. There has been a few guys I have liked, but nothing in return. 

I recently went to Dallas for work and had dinner with a good friend. I ALWAYS get asked if this guy and I are dating and all those questions that surround that. We are just friends! He and I have been friends for a long time. He's a great guy and someone I would date. Would I? Yes! He knows it, but we are just friends. We have had the "why don't we date" talk several times over the years and we always just come out as friends. Any girl that ends up with him would be a VERY lucky lady! (plus he gives the BEST hugs!!)

I'm cool with not dating anyone right now. Would I like to? Well that's a silly question! If not, then I remain steadfast in my quest to just be Cool Aunt Christi! (So far, its working!!)

But that doesn't mean that I won't date at all. When I do make up my mind about traveling, I will email the Mormon Matchmakers and see if they have anyone up for a date. 

Now I just have to figure out what to do about my blog.....any ideas? 

Until then, I am still kissing frogs....

Are you up for a visit?!?!

It's been a few weeks since I have blogged. Sorry about that! I had my brother's birthday, my birthday and then last week. Sadly no dates to report. :(

A friend of mine told me he would take me out, but he doesn't want to be blogged about. I only blog about dates with guys I don't know! So if you are a guy friend of mine and want to take me out, no worries! I know you...you are safe! However, strangers.....oh you get a blog post! (You  just don't know it!)

2 posts ago, I talked about the Mormon Matchmakers. Well I got an email from Sami that said that she had heard great things about me from Lillie and wanted to meet me too. We scheduled a phone call for last Friday. She asked me all kinds of questions about myself and what I am looking for. It was a good conversation.

She did tell me that if I find myself outside of Texas, to let her know and she will see about getting me a date or two! Lucky for me, I have friends in California, Utah, Washington, Hawaii, Arizona, Idaho, all over!!! 

So wants me to come visit for a weekend?!?! I promise that you will have my undivided attention during the day and be the first one to hear about my date (pre-blog!) Look at your calendars!!!

I'm excited to see where this road takes me!! 

Try #2

So remember (No) K Cupid J? Well he was texting me for a week after our date to take me out again. He said that he knew it was a bad date and that he wanted to take me on a proper date to make up for it. Reluctantly, I agreed.......wish I hadn't......(Paula you were RIGHT!)

He wanted to pick me up at my apt, so I had him pick me up outside my complex. (Like I want him coming to my apartment) When I got in the car, he asked me if I liked Mexican food and then asked if I had heard of a place called Gringos. (I've been there a few times! ) Off to Stafford we went.

He talked about his kids, how many dates he goes on, his family (they all live on the same street) and of course, motorcycles. The rides he just went on, the new mirrors he got for his bike, the tires, speed....you name it! UGH!

At the restaurant, we had to wait about 20 minutes, not too bad, but that gave us more time for motorcycle talk! YAY! My fave! 

Once we were seated, I literally ate like 2 baskets of chips. (That green sauce is SO good!) Plus I was being talked AT, not TO, so what else is a girl to do!?!?!? 

He talked about his old house, how his ex-wife has it (she's apparently the spawn of Satan) and how he really wishes he still  had that house. He kept dropping hints for me to ask him what happened with ex's 1 and 2, but I didn't because I really just don't care. I'm not interested in being wife #3......

He did ask me when my birthday was (It's April 11) and then asked me what I was doing. (I don't know what I am doing yet, haven't really had time to plan it out yet. I thought about going to Vegas, but I got so busy with work that I didn't get that trip planned.) I might have told a little white lie that I am going out of town..don't judge.....you would have lied too! 

Finally dinner was over and he took me home. I got out. He didn't bother to get out to give me a hug or anything. Just "talk to you later." Fine by me. The best part of the date was dinner!

I haven't really heard from him this week. Maybe he got the hint that I was not interested. Poor frog.....

Mormon Matchmaker

Last week a few of the ladies from Mormon Matchmaker (http://www.theldsmatchmaker.com/) were in town. They hosted a free meet and greet at Kenny and Ziggy's and also held complimentary "Meet the Matchmakers" consultations for those who wanted to do so.

So I made an appointment on Friday to meet with a matchmaker. I showed up and met with Lily. She was so nice and asked me all about myself (family, job, likes, dislikes, hobbies, type of guy I'm looking for, etc.) She explained to me how the process works. Their clients (guys) come to them for dates. They then use their database and resources to find girls for them to date. If one of the guys likes me, then the Matchmakers contact me, tell me about the him and get an OK from me for him to either contact me himself or for them to set up a date. I told her that I am willing to travel for a date...you never know! :)

Side note, the guy from last week (No K Cupid J) keeps texting me asking to see me again. Apparently he had way more fun on our date then I did.......

And then there is this guy..he's 64.........

"What a man writes depends on that which touches his soul it can happen in a great slow wave over days and weeks and years or in the twinkling of an eye as you lift the veil from your own soul to show me what no one but me can see. . .

Dear Christi

You have a nice smile and good background. I appreciate what I saw of your values. I'm a loving man who is very young for age, healthy and strong. I'm looking for a woman who wants a family. I'm a professor of pediatrics; I invent math skills-enhancing puzzles for children, I sing with the symphony and I can write you a sonnet. Let me know if you would be interested.

These days I’m only interested in a relationship that is soul to soul. And I want you to know that the most important other thing for me is to have a child with someone in the context of love. I know you may prefer a younger man but if you can allow your heart to open to me, many wonderful things will follow. They are worth our talking about and seeking.

Communication is the key. Let us find the best in one another.

W

Reason says-- i will win You with my eloquence...
Love says-- i will win You with my silence...
Soul says-- how can i win You when all i have is already Yours?
---J. Rumi"

Lucky me! I'm sure he is a lovely frog for someone, just not me.

(No) K Cupid J

Well last night I had my first date from OK Cupid. I matched with J (again with the J) and we text a few times and he asked me to meet him for a cup of coffee. We met up at Starbucks on Westheimer and Post Oak. (And since I don't drink coffee, I had a Jamba Juice!) 

I should have known this was going to be a disaster as soon as I got there. We met up at 8:30 pm and I began to notice more and more motorcyclists arriving. (J has a motorcycle). Did you know that Wednesday nights bike riders meet up at that Starbucks and go on rides together? Me neither! Imagine my surprise when all of his buddies began showing up and talking to us (well him, he didn't introduce me to anyone) So I feel like he only suggested that place so he could show off to his buddies he was on a date. (Strike 1)

We (well he mostly) talked. Now I am familiar with motorcycles. I have 2 brothers that had had bikes. I have friends who have bikes. I've been on bikes. But to talk to me about it for an hour....BORING! He talked about how he recently started going up to hospitals to see guys injured in bike wrecks. (actually I thought that was kind of cool....the cool part ended there!)

He talked about how he is an only child. I told him I have 4 brothers. He then said "What, did your parents keep trying for another girl and finally gave up?" (not amused, strike 2). He said he has 2 ex wives. (Now I am ok with being divorced, but 2 ex wives by 30.....kind of freaks me out) 

Now, anyone that REALLY knows me, knows that I am SUPER sensitive about my weight. I was ALWAYS referred to as the "Skinny Girl" and I was always asked if I ate, was anorexic or bulimic. Hell I graduated high school at 95 pounds. (I wasn't any of those, some people are just jerks and its not funny to tease people about their weight. It's just not nice!!) So needless to say, I am probably the only person in the world who gets excited to gain weight. Last night, we are sitting there and he says this to me "From your pictures, you looked bigger." WTH!?!?  I looked bigger!?!? What does that even mean? Are you sad I'm not bigger? Are you calling me fat!?!? (Pretty much strike 3)

So at 9:40 pm I told him that I was going to go so he could hang out with his buddies. Then he said "If you want to me again....." (yeah doubtful) He stood up and made a big scene about hugging me and I walked to my car and left. Then at 3 AM, I get a text that says "It was a absolute pleasure meeting you." (I'm sure it was, but not at 3 AM! We all know how I feel about 3 AM texts.....VETO!)

Geez! With all these dates, eventually I have to get a prince, right?

Until that happens, I am still kissing frogs.....

Updates and Ok Cupid

It's been a BUSY couple of weeks. I feel like I always say that, but it has. Work is just not slowing down....until this week when my boss is on Spring Break! (Please don't let him email me!!!) I haven't had a lot of time to invest into dating. Let's face it, dating is time consuming. And I have just been feeling a little burnt out........

So at the recommendation of a close friend, I got on OK Cupid. She met her boyfriend on there and they are very happy!! It's an online site like all the others, and man the pick up lines keep coming!! I thought I would share some with you, just so you can understand how crazy and funny it is clearing out all the freaks. There were more, but those were the best ones...and that's not really saying much. 

• Happy rainy Thursday. Not gonna hit you with the normal lines that I'm assuming are blowing up your inbox, but I will ask if you can have any super power besides flying what would it be and why? I'm D if you care like talking.
• wow will you marry me :) lol? 
• Might not reply because of age but.. is like to take the time to say that you're very very VERY gorgeous :) (he was 21)
• Well aren't I lucky??? Hi pretty girl. Just woke up for a bit. Let's talk later.
• I am a matchmaker with a great match for you:,Me! lol. I am the gentleman type and believe in treating the girl right. :). I am sort of a nerd as well, as I am an engineer, or as my former professor called it, an enginerd.lol. I I am a fun guy.:).
• Hello! You didn't have much on your profile but you're very cute and I'd love the opportunity to chat and get to know you better. Have anything fun planned for the weekend?
• "Ctrl + v" sounds like the name of a screamo band. Hi there I'm E and I've always wondered how did that cow jump over the moon? What are you up to? I like corny jokes so I'm gonna ask you to tell me one.
• When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible (he was 54)

Oh, the update on M....we are just going to be friends. He is GREAT guy, FANTASTIC! I can't say enough nice things about him. We are just on 2 different pages at the moment.  I wish him nothing but the best and I know he feels the same.

I have been asked why I don't do a singles cruise...I'd be down. If anyone wants to go with, let me know! I'm going to venture out in open water alone, but if ya'll want to go, then let me know. Even if we get there and it sucks, who cares. It'd be great blog post!! :)

We shall see how ok cupid goes. Hopefully I will get some dates out of it. 

Until then, I am still kissing frogs......

Cowboy J

It has been a UBER busy couple of weeks. Sorry its taken me so long to blog about my date!

What is the deal with me and J names?? I feel like every guy I meet has a J name! Not to mention all the guys I dated with J names! Hell, my car is even a J name!!

Cowboy J and I matched as soon as I swiped right. We messaged and soon exchanged numbers. He seemed cool and he asked me out to dinner last Wednesday. He even called me to make sure that I was actually a girl! How funny is that!?!? 

We met up at Pappasitos on Richmond and Hilcroft and had dinner. He had just came from work (he works off of Wilcrest) and so he looked nice. I noticed his dimples right away. So cute! As we ate we talked about generic first date things. He is from Brenham so we talked about that and how Brenham does this Maifest. Apparently its a HUGE deal! We chatted about our families. He is divorced with 2 kids. I learned about barndominiums. (Google them, its actually kind of cool) Overall I liked him. Great start for a first date, I thought.......

When we went to leave, he gave me an awkward side hug and left. I got him and texted him "Thanks again for dinner. It was fun!" His reply "You're welcome" Wait what?!?!? You're welcome!?!?!? No we should do it again sometime? No I had fun too? No I'll be in touch? Nope....just you're welcome. Now, I'm sure some of you are thinking that it's not that bad. But guys, help me out here. You're welcome is code for you will never hear from me again. (Sort of like, it's not you, it's me, but it's really you.) I kinda hoped that he was just nervous and didn't know what to say, but its a been over a week and zero contact. 

So on to the next. In the meantime, I am still kissing frogs.......

Begging Buddy

This is a LONG post about Buddy! I promise it's entertaining.........

This has definitely been an interesting couple of days.....Sunday I was propositioned to have a 3 some! WTH!!?!? Too bad I'm the only girl in my family and I never quite learned to share ANYTHING!!! SO VETO! 

Also on Sunday I had the "fortunate" opportunity to match with Buddy on Tinder. Poor Poor Buddy! 

Buddy messaged me first and seemed cool. We chatted about our weekend, what we do, etc. He asked about the rodeo carnival. (He lives in Alabama and was here getting a stem cell transplant checkup).

Sometimes I just feel that it's easier for me to post the conversation....just so you can get a idea of what I am really thinking.......

He said " I noticed you and couldn't help but learn more"

well that's a nice line......ok I'll bite.....

B: What do you have going on tonight?

Me: I'm doing laundry! I have zero clean clothes to wear to work tomorrow. (ok that is a lie, I had just gone to my mecca (aka the Houston Galleria) and bought a few things, and I had done my laundry the day before. I was just being lazy! Don't judge!)

B: Come have have pizza. I'm can't help you with laundry and clean clothes from here. (he was staying at a hotel by the med center)

Me: How long are you in town for?

B: Til tomorrow night. My flight is at 5pm. Come let's go walk around the rodeo. I'm bored out of my mind. (I don't really like the cook off or the carnival)

Me: You will just have to come back so we can. 

B: I'm here now. 

Me; I can't tonight. I have to get some work done before tomorrow. (also a lie!)

B: You are no fun. LOL. Make me sit here in my room all alone, with no friends to play with. Makes me sad. LOL

(I'm not amused and starting to get annoyed.)

Me; I'm sorry. 

B: I'm sure there are plenty of guys here that would take a very sexy lady out on the town. You need to stop doing laundry for a while and come see me. I can enjoy that smile while I am here.

Me; Rain check? (Take a hint buddy!!!)

He tries to sweet talk me more, "I'd come back to Houston more often if I knew there was a sexy woman waiting on me.....blah blah blah......

I tell him that my boss is texting me about work. (Again, a lie! I probably should have stopped responding, but then what fun would that be?) He tells me that "your boss said you need to come here and see me. You can't go against his orders. Your boss said you need to come keep me company."

Then he asks for my number......whatever, I'm annoyed but slightly entertained to see how much more thick he can lay the lines on......

He then texts me and tells me I am sexy (OBIVOUSLY! hehe) and he would kiss my lips if I was there. (One of many reasons I am NOT there!)

Poor guy tries to win me over asking if I am romantic and that I seem nice and like I will do anything for the man I care about. He then asks if he can put me in his suitcase and take me to Alabama. Then he says that he wishes I could come stay with him tonight. "You can wear my shirt and shorts." (I have my own clothes!) Then he proceeds to beg me to come over!!! "You will have your own bed. (I have my own bed at my apartment!!!)  I dodge that invitation with an "I'm on the phone" (you'd think he'd catch on, but no) 

Finally I tell him that my phone is about to die (lie yet again) and he quits messaging me.

Then Monday.....guess who texts me first thing........Yep... Buddy!!!

B: Good Morning! Hope you slept well. Wish you could come have lunch with me.

Me; Swamped!! (NOT a lie, I REALLY was!)

B: That's no good. I am done  until 2:45. Wouldn't mind have a sexy woman with me. (really!!?!?)

Me: ............no response......seriously...take a hint. I'm at work and I'm busy!!!

B: Must be real busy. Can't keep your attention. (Did you really ever have it in the first place!?!?!?)

later on....

B: I'm headed to the airport. I wish  you was flying with me. Could become mile high members. Haha!!! (ok by this time, he had sent over a current pic....no......just no.....)

Me: Have a safe flight.

B: Thanks dear. Want me to let you know I made it?

Me; (NO!) sure....

Then he texts me when he lands at like 8:30pm. (Clearly I was worried sick!)

B: Regret not coming to see me now? LOL

B; Guess not. Sorry

I just have no words. Poor Buddy! He probably thought/hoped I'd be dumb enough to come over and do whatever and he could brag to his friends that he nailed a girl in Houston....cause you know...he's a stud! Too bad for him I'm not that type of girl. I only meet guys in public places and there is ZERO going home with you on the first date. Call me a prude. I'm ok with that. Tinder is, if nothing else...VERY entertaining!!

So here I am.....still kissing (or not kissing) frogs......

Hypocritical D

Geez! Where do I start!?!?? It's been a crazy couple of days. SO MUCH DRAMA!!!

I hope you were able to read the blog about D last week. We went out to lunch, had a great time, etc. Everything was fine until somehow he found my blog. (I have nothing to hide. I  just don't tell the guys I am blogging because I want to see the real them. I don't want an act. I want to know the real person. Besides, I usually go on a lot of first dates. Very few get more than 1 date. No need in telling them about the blog if its not going to go anywhere, right? Plus, if I didn't blog about it, then none of you would know about Captain Underwear and that is one damn funny story!!!)

Ok so somehow this weekend D found out about my blog. (Hence part of the reason it's private) He text me and said "I need you to take that down IMMEDIATELY" When I asked why he said "for my own safety" (red flag). I took the post down....whatever.

Then yesterday this is the text exchange:

D: hey

Me: are you still mad?

D: I wasn't mad, more blown away.

Me: Why? It wasn't anything bad...I guess I just don't understand....

D: I don't expect you to

Me: Ok

D: I haven't lived a traditional professional life and putting things in there about military, Austin, where we met, etc put me at risk.

Me: So where does that leave us, if anywhere.

D: I don't know, the whole blog things seems odd and horribly impersonal and that you feel comfortable posting about your dating life is not at all aligned with me. It's just all weird.

Me: It's a blog about my adventures in dating. I'm an open person to an extent. Some stuff is off limits, and I get that. It's up to you, I'd love to see you again, but understand if you don't.

D: No, not interested, too strange.

Me: Ok, well best of luck to you! :)

D: likewise

D: It's a real shame. In the future you make want to tell people that you're "blogging" about them

So let me get this straight...YOU are online dating. I met YOU on Tinder. YOU told me YOU are active on social media. Yet YOU have a problem with me blogging about it because it puts YOU at risk!?!? What are YOU hiding!?!?! I understand that he likes his personal life personal, but telling me it puts YOU at risk!?!!??!!? Hypocritical much!?!? Now I'm sure you probably have an different opinion about this, maybe even agree with him and that's fine! But just the whole way he acted and what he said, just doesn't sit right with me. RED FLAGS being thrown everywhere!

I have half a mind to post his picture and contact info just so we can look for what he is hiding! But I won't. I'll be nice......for now....

So now my blog is private.....and I plan on keeping it this way. Unless Hollywood calls and wants to make a movie about this....

Looks like this frog is still a toad......

Date with A from Tinder

Last night I had a date with A from Tinder. (I know I said Tinder was shallow........) We matched last week and soon after were texting. So we decided to meet up for dinner last night at the Grand Luxe Cafe at 7:30pm (which is convenient because Grand Luxe is like a 2 minute drive from my apt).

My first impression of him is that he was cute, he was wearing gray jeans though (so NOT a fan of gray jeans). He had a nice deep voice!!! We hugged hello, went in and were immediately seated. He was super easy to talk to. We talked about our day (mine was INSANE with travel nightmares!). He used to work in Dallas for a physician's recruiting firm so we shared crazy stories and travel woes. He asked me why I don't drink. I told him that if he knew me better he would know that I act like a fool normally, so don't need to add the alcohol. (I mean we all know how graceful I am!)

We talked about our families. He is an only child. (You are familiar with the brothers). He has 2 kids, a girl and a boy. His daughter is 7, his son is 4. He bought his daughter (and her friend) Taylor Swift tickets for her birthday! We talked about his ex and how well they get along because its all about the kids. (His ex has a key to his house and vice versa.)

We talked about shared interests. He likes NHRA (National Hot Rod Association) racing. (I have gone to so many drag races I can't even tell you!) Typical guy, likes sports and fast cars! We talked about the Urban Slide coming to Houston. All kinds of random stuff.

After dinner, we shared dessert (warm butter cake) and we left. He walked me to my car and he asked about Justin (my Jetta). He said volkswagens were quality made cars. (made Justin happy!) We hugged and he said we should do it again. I agreed. All in all, it was a good first Tinder date. We shall see.

And for you M fans: HE IS STILL AROUND! I have had so many questions about him. He has been very busy with his kids and I respect that. I am hoping we can go out again soon. 

Until then, I am still kissing frogs....

Lunch with South Texas J

I met J from South Texas on Zoosk. (His profile said he lived in Spring, yeah...he doesn't!) After a couple of messages back and forth, we exchanged numbers and the texting began. He was cool. Very driven!! He said that he has family in Spring and would be in Houston to see them at the end of the month, but didn't want to wait that long to meet me. So he tossed around the idea of a spontaneous weekend trip to Houston last weekend to meet me. (I told him that if he was looking for any action whatsoever to just stay home and that if he came, he was staying in a hotel...alone! He agreed and began to plan his trip.) He said he would leave Saturday morning to come to Houston.

Well Saturday, he texts me and says that his boss invited him to go a conference in Austin and that it would be good for his career. (He is in education.) He asks me what he should do. (Why is he asking me?!?!) I told him he should go after a few minutes, he agreed. So he was off to Austin from South Texas.

Sunday he texts me and says that he would like to stop in Houston on his way home to have lunch with me. He estimates he will be in Houston between 12 and 1. I get dressed and ready and he finally calls me at 12:45 and says that he took the Beltway and is in Katy. (ok, if you are NOT familiar with the Houston or the Beltway...DO NOT TAKE IT!) We had agreed to go to Pappadeaux in Stafford and so figuring he was about 20 minutes away, I left. 

I get to the restaurant and text him. ETA? He calls and says that he is in Richmond. (WHAT!?!?) So i re-text him the address and he says he should be there soon. (Keep in mind that I am in my car waiting) After about 20 minutes he texts me. He is in Rosenberg. Um...that is not closer to where he needs to be. I call him. How did this happen? He says that his GPS gave him the wrong directions. (Ya think!?!? Plus you said you take 59 South to get home. You should be familiar with the area) I'm getting frustrated and the friend I am venting to says to just leave. I feel bad because he is coming out of his way to see me and so I continue to wait.........and wait......and wait.....

About an hour later, he shows up. He parks right next to me and gets out of the car, apologizing profusely. It's ok I tell him (Yep, I lied!) Ok, He is wearing a white v-neck sweater with a big moose on it from Abercrombie & Fitch. (Gentlemen, if you are still wearing Abercrombie & Fitch clothes and you are 34.....I have a friend who can help you out. She is stylist...Call her IMMEDIATELY!) and his hair...so much gel in there......(I also have friends who can help with that too!)

We go in and put our name on the waiting list (yep more waiting for me) and sit outside at a table to wait for the text. I notice that he is not making eye contact. (i'm a huge eye contact person) Strange but whatever. The table is ready text comes and we are escorted to our table. We have lunch....well I have lunch...he is not really eating (he later tells me he was nervous) and he talks and he talks and he talks and he talks. He tells me that he either wants to be an actor, a director of a university, a CEO of a major law firm or a director of global something...(i totally tuned him out and said "oh cool" and "nice" and "ok" at all the right moments) 

His mannerisms are kind of feminine and the waiter keeps coming over and asking HIM if he needs anything. I think I asked 10 times for more DP! (yeah....we are thinking the same thing.) The check comes and J is the one who ends up with a drink for the road. 

He tells me that if its ok with me, he is going to get off of Zoosk because he wants to date me. (WHAT?!?! Are we on the same first date!?!?) I don't say anything. (My mom said if you can't say anything nice......)

We walk to our cars and I tell him to text me when he gets home so I know he made it there safe (He had a 5 hour drive home) and we go our separate ways.

I get this text Sunday around 9:45pm:

"Thank you again for having the manly guts to want to meet me lol! I had a very good time, I even ate....Even though I was nervous. And again.....I'm so sorry!!!! Thank you for your patience!" 

I say nothing.  Monday he texts me...i say nothing. Tuesday he texts me. "Hope all is well! And I am planning to go home....FYI :)"

Crap! Now i have to "break up" with him too! How do you tell a guy "I'm pretty sure you are gay and you need to come out of the closet" (I'm not even kidding...so gay. I AM NOT SAYING THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY! I'm just wondering how tell him he needs to come out of the closet!) 

Poor J. This date goes in the books as one of the worst I have ever been on. This is one frog that needs help........in more ways than one!

Fogo with M

Friday, M and I had our 3rd date!!! Look out now! :)

M met me at my apartment around 6:45pm. We chatted for about 15 minutes and then headed to Fogo de Chao. (He was so cute, he made a reservation for 7:30, so we got right in and sat down.)

Keep in mind that the last time I went to Fogo, I think I was like 18 or so, it had been years!!!! But it was as delicious as ever! We loaded up our plates at the salad bar and talked while we got ready to get meat drunk. I wasn't sure what I wanted and didn't want to be overwhelmed with choices, so I didn't turn my card to green. I let M do all the work! We had chicken legs, lamb, filet, bacon covered chicken and yummy sirloin. (the sirloin was my fave!)

We flagged down our waitress and had her bring us some mashed potatoes. I may or may not have asked for macaroni and cheese....the waitress looked at me like I had 3 heads and said (almost laughing) "we don't have that here." (Now, I know what you are thinking "Um, Fogo is a BRAZILIAN steakhouse, genius!" Yes, but they had mashed potatoes and I really wanted macaroni and cheese! Laugh and get it over with........)

After we were sufficiently stuffed, we ordered dessert. (Duh!) We had the fudge brownie with vanilla ice cream. It was awesome!!

On the drive home, M put his hand on the console...I knew that he was wanting, so just for fun I ignored it. After a few minutes, he said "Um, hello!? Do you see my hand?" I said "Yep" and gave him a high 5!! 

We got back to my place and just talked for about 20 minutes and then he left. He had to work on Saturday and so I didn't want to keep him out too late. (I'm so nice!) After a sweet kiss on the cheek, he left. (That's right, it was our 3rd date and I got a kiss on the cheek! We aren't rushing into anything and I think its completely sweet!)

When he got home, I got this text:
"Thank you for going to dinner with me. I enjoy the time I spend with you. You make me laugh and I feel very comfortable with you. I would like to continue on this path. I want to take you out again. How does that sound?"

4th DATE SCORE!!!! I'm having so much fun getting to know him and it makes me happy to know he feels the same!

Who knows....maybe kissing this frog is not too far off......

Date with J

Last night I had a date with J. I met him on Zoosk and after chatting back and forth for a few days, he asked me out. We had originally planned to go out on Monday, but someone forgot (him, not me) and so after an apology we rescheduled for last night.

We met up at Gringos on 45 at 8pm. (I LOVE Mexican food, even though I am lactose intolerant...all that yummy cheese!!! Gotta love Lactaid!) He was cool, but seemed very distracted....kept checking his phone and looking around. He finished his meal SUPER fast, so then I felt weird and tried to hurry. (I've been told I'm a slow eater!) 

We chatted about where he is from, what he does and the usual first date get to know you topics. (He seemed surprised when I told him I have 4 brothers and that they don't know they are younger than me....fiercely protective!) Then we talked about the weather! (WHAT!?!?!) I mean I am a huge weather junkie but to talk about it on a date...for like 10 minutes.....not a good sign. 

After our 45 minute dinner, we left. He walked me to my car and gave me a hug and that was that.

This morning he text me and asked if he was someone I would want to see again. I told him that yesterday seemed a little off. He said he was nervous and would like to see me again. (It makes me laugh that he was nervous. I am SO not the type of person to be nervous around. Anyone that knows me, knows that I am a huge nerd and embarrass myself daily!) If he asks out again, I'd go. Just so I can try to get a feel for how he is....but then again, I''m not quite sure I was feeling it. Dating is hard! 

Oh a side note, for all you M fans out there......he text me last night after the date was over (he didn't know I had a date) and when I told him how it was, he said "Yes! Another one bites the dust!" LOL!!! We have a date on Friday, should be fun. He is hard at work thinking about what to do. He knows the pressure is on!


Until then, I am still kissing frogs.....

Breaking up with Captain Underwear

I don't know why I had such a hard time "breaking up" with Captain Underwear. I guess I just wasn't feeling that mean. Poor guy kept texting me about taking me out again and I kept putting him off....mature I know.

So I went to the place where I knew I would get tons of advice....facebook! There were lots of helpful and not so helpful ideas. But in the end I just went for the honest approach and just texted him.

ME: I don't know how to say this, but I just don't feel a connection with you. You're a great guy, but I am not interested in taking this any further than being friends. I'm sorry!!

HIM: Thanks for telling me. Good luck with your search.

ME: Thanks!! You too!

I may or may not have told a little white lie......don't judge me!

A little while later, I laughed at a friend's advice:

"Here was my idea. Ask him boxers or briefs......What do you think his response would've been?"

Probably briefs...

"Then say sorry but i find guys that wear briefs are a little too uptight for me!"

Lame? Yes!  But funny nonetheless!!!

I can honestly say that Captain Underwear is one frog I'm glad I never kissed.

Painting with a Twist

So far, M has been the only guy lucky enough to get a second date! He is turning out to be a really great guy.....if nothing else, I know we will be great friends! Oh and he does know about my blog and he reads it (Hi M!). He knows I am dating other people and is totally cool with it. He even said that if things keep progressing, he would be interested in making a guest appearance! :)

Our second date was Wednesday and we met up at La Madeleine on Westheimer and had dinner. (PS, the white bean soup there is AMAZING!!!) I learned more about M and his past and how that has helped shape him into the man he is today. He has an interesting history!

After dinner, we raced over to PWAT. Literally we raced through the parking lot to get there. I'm pretty sure it was a tie! (My brothers think I drive too fast anyways so they will love this.....or roll their eyes!!) The class was small (about 7 people total) and the teacher who had REALLY BAD smokers breath!!

These are the finished products!! Pretty good if I do say so myself! We all know I am not an artist (I can't even draw a stick figure guy) so Teacher McSmoker's Breath came over and fixed any mistakes I made. I had big color blobs and he turned them into flowers! (My painting is totally hanging up in my bedroom!!!!!)

We ended the evening with a hug and home we both went. He texted me when he got back home and said he hung his painting up too!

No talk was made of a 3rd date until 5 minutes ago. He JUST text me and said "I had a great time Wednesday night. I would like to take you out again. Date #3! Are you interested?" THIRD DATE SCORE!!!

I have a date with J (a guy from Zoosk) on Monday night. So we shall see....

Wonder which one of these frogs I will kiss first........

My Tinder Experience

Oh Tinder!!! 

For those of you who won't know what Tinder is...it's a COMPLETELY SHALLOW APP!! You put in your search criteria (age, male or female) and it uses your phone location to show you other app holders in your area. You swipe left (not interested) or swipe right (interested) based on looks alone!! There is a SMALL space to write about yourself, but that's about it. Fancy, huh!?!?!?

So one night last week, I decided to give tinder a try. (Now you can meet cool people on there. I have a friend who recently got engaged to a guy she met on there and a co-worker has been with his tinder girlfriend for a year!)

I swiped left and right and hit a match with B. I have posted the convo below because....well you will see....

• B: Hi
• Me: Hey! How is Tinder treating you so far?
• B: Good. U?
• Me: I just got on today so so far it's good.
• B: What are you looking for?
• Me: I'm looking for someone to hang out, get to know and if turns into something more great. I'm not a one night stand kind of girl. You?!
• B: Someone fun and down to earth.
• Me; Hey, I'm fun!
• B: I'm 5-11 200 lbs. U? 
• Me: 5'7 120 lbs. I work downtown
• B: What do u do? Kids? Divorced?
• Me: I work at a recruiting firm. No and No.
• B: What are u doing up?
• Me: Just finished laundry. I needed to wash warm clothes for tomorrow!
• B: No kids and never married.
• Me: Why are you up so late?
• B: I live off Washington and Shepard. U? Took a nap earlier
• Me: (When did 12am become late) Westheimer inside the loop.
• B: Do u have any head to toe pics?
• Me: Where do you work?
• B: Oil and gas. For a midstream company. Im an engineer.
• Me: Oh cool and no I don't. I'm going to bed. Let's chat tomorrow, if you want. Nite! :)

The next day:

• B: Wanna text?
• Me: Sure
• B gives me his number
• B: sends me a pic of him with no shirt on
• Me:  Nice tattoo
• B: Thanks. Full pic of u
• Me: (I send him a pic)
• Me: I'm in my comfy pants!
• B: Any bikini pics lol
• Me: Not til the summer
• B: Could u now?
• Me: I'm not sure what you are looking for, but I'm not that type of girl.....I'm not looking for a one night stand, Sorry if I gave you any other impression.
• B: Not a one night stand but someone fun
• Me: I'm fun, just not that type of fun. Sorry!

**RADIO SILENCE**

You can only imagine what I am thinking about this one............VETO!!

Oh, I'm going to have to have the talk with P2 (aka Captain Underwear) this week. Poor guy keeps texting me to hang out..

in the meantime, i am still kissing frogs......

Date with M

So I had a friend text me and tell me that posting about my dating life on FB makes me look desperate! Here is my take on that....whatever! It's my life! I stopped caring about others opinions a LONG time ago. I'm me and if you don't like it, too bad.

**RANT OVER**

I had my date with M last night. (Remember I met him on POF) We exchanged numbers a while back and its been fun to get to know him over text. We have a mutual friend so I figured if he turned out to be crazy, then I'd just call our friend and have him take care of it. (I have friends in high and low places!!)

We met at Escalante's at Town & Country. He lives in Katy and I'm in the Galleria so it was a good halfway point. Traffic was (of course) HORRIBLE, so I was a few minutes late. When I got there, he said that he had bought me a present..and hands me this:

I started cracking up! Does he get me or what!?!??! I could tell we were going to have a great time!! We had a great dinner and the conversation flowed...no awkwardness at all. (But when is there awkwardness with me anyway!?!??!)

At this particular Escalante's they have a bull head on the wall. This woman, who was there with what looked like her family, got up and asked a waiter to take pics of her with the bull head. She started posing and we think he took like 20 pics! She didn't look like she was drunk....but then who gets up and takes smiling, POSED pics of a bull head!?!?!? (I'm not even kidding y'all. She posed right, she posed left. She was getting her pic with that bull!)

After dinner, he walked me to my car and we hugged bye. He told me to text him when I got home so he would know I made it home ok. (So nice!) When i got home, this was our exchange:

ME: "Home! Thanks, I had fun!!"
HIM: No....Thank you. :) Glad you made it home okay. I had fun also! If your okay with it, I'd like to take you out again."

Second date SCORE!! He was very sweet, cute and a complete gentleman. He is a little bit shorter than me, (by like an inch or two) but it was fine. All in all I had a great time and am looking forward to getting to know him more. He was a GREAT guy and so we will see......

Know any cute single guys?

Y'all, I am blown away by the number of texts, fb messages and calls regarding this blog! I never thought so many people would be interested in MY dating life. I mean really! It's crazy!!!

I have had lots of questions about who/what I am looking for. So I figured I'd lay it out there and see what happens. Who knows!?!? Maybe one of you know someone for me.....

• Most of you know that I am Mormon, so dating an LDS guy would be nice, but is not a must. Must believe in God and have some sort of religious background. 
• Non-smoker, no drugs either.
• Not a big drinker, on occasion is ok with me.
• Kids ok. Would like more kids (I want one or two of my own someday)
• Loves the Great State of Texas (or at least will let me think he does!) 
• I'm not a one night kind of girl, so veto any of those guys. 
• College degree preferred, but if not then have a good job.
• I am willing to travel for a date....I have plenty of amazing friends that would let me stay with them for the weekend. 
• Divorced ok, but NO drama!
• I am 5'7 so at least that tall.
• No criminal background....feels silly to say that but you never know....
• I'm 29....give or take 7 years (36 for those doing the math in your head) so at least 33 years old, but no one over say 40. (that just feels too old for me)

I don't think that is too much to ask for, do you?!?!? So put on your thinking caps on and see if you know anyone. You know how to find me!

Oh and my next date from POF is with M on Thursday. Stay tuned for that update.

Until then, i am still kissing frogs.....