8.16.21 Update

Everyone has been asking me lately to update this blog. The truth is I don’t feel like there is much to update, especially in regards to my dating life and I’m ok with that.

After the lovely breakup with everyone’s favorite Florida guy, I was pretty broken. Broken in every way a person can be broken. My self-esteem (and credit) both went to zero. Luckily for me, my self-esteem is around 90% and my credit…. well according to Credit Karma still needs work, but that’s life. (and if your credit is perfect you hush!)

It took me a LONG time to decide I was ready to put myself out there and be vulnerable again. Fortunately, the few guys I have hung out with since then have been amazing. We may not have worked as relationships, but they are great friends and I’m grateful for them.

There is someone. We’ve been off and on for 2 years. We met at work. He worked at the company next door to me in an office building. He’s 44, went to A&M for college and works for a company that installs point of sale systems for restaurants. He’s on their marketing team. Overall, he is a GREAT guy! Are there things that should change? Of course! But he puts up with me and that’s saying something.

Other than that, I’m loving being an aunt to my 4 favorite little people! I love watching them grow and learn and their little personalities are my favorite. They are smart, stubborn, funny, curious, not afraid of anything, adventurous and I love it! 

Besides my family, I stay busy with the best friends! Someone is always down to go on a crazy adventure with me. There are days I do nothing and its glorious too!

And as far as cooking….I can, but I don’t. I don’t normally eat breakfast and I always go out for lunch. I do try to eat dinner at home. I mean cereal is the dinner of champions, right?!? 

So that’s it. My life in a few paragraphs. Still unsure what to do with this blog. I’m sure a brilliant idea will come eventually.

But for now, I’m still kissing frogs…..

A year

This blog post has been on my mind for a while, but I wasn't sure how to put my feelings into sentences that made sense. So I'm going to try and if it sounds crazy....well we've met! :)

A year ago today I found out my ex boyfriend was cheating on me. He had unfriended me on facebook and gave me some lame excuse about why when I asked him. Then when I saw the background photo of him and some other girl, I questioned it (and then I snoped on instagram and he clearly wasn't hiding it there) and my entire world fell apart. It's still hard to look back and see how dumb I was to not see it, but I didn't. (My dad and brothers had doubts, but they hoped their feelings were wrong because they love me, wanted me to be happy and knew that this was THE guy I wanted....THE guy I had waited 10 years for....THE one for me.) But it turned out that THE guy was just a stinky old toad dressed up as a prince. Everyone always shows their true colors eventually.....

The past year has been full of all kinds of drama (the stupid gf threatened me, the stupid ex threatened me, etc....silly rabbit....I have friends in LOW places that....well just know that) All the while, I took it, trying to be the better person.....which is SO hard to do when you are destroyed. The only "revengey" thing I did was write 2 'Roses are Red' poems (I blogged one, both are on my insta page) Well that and I gave away some of his clothes and shoes but it just wasn't worth it to stoop to their level and be devious. (Oh trust me, I have some of the best friends who wanted to do the BEST stuff, but I turned the other cheek.) I don't look at it as a weakness, but as a sign of strength. (Or maybe I'm getting soft in my old age......in college oh the stories I can tell you....but that was another life a million years ago when I was a LOT meaner)

So here we are today, a year later. A lot has changed. I've changed. I'm over the heartbreak, but I'm still mad. Mad that he owes me like roughly $5,000 I'll never get. Mad that I'm back in debt. Mad about the huge dent in Justin Jetta. Mad that he lied for so long. Mad that he used me. Mad that I was so depressed and upset that it cost me a job. Mad that I've been under so much stress the past year. Mad that I loved someone who didn't love me back. Mad that it was real to me....but not to him.

Being mad doesn't mean I'm not over it. Because I am. 100% over it. And I know you are probably thinking "well you aren't over it if you are still mad". You can be over it and still mad at someone. Don't text me, message or call me telling me what you think because I frankly don't care. I'm a grown up and if I want to be mad forever then so be it. Being this mad will prevent me from making the same mistake twice, or ever taking him back (hell would have to freeze over TWICE before that will ever happen)

I never thought I would be 39 and single, but I am. And its fine. I'm an Aunt to 2 fantastic girls with a nephew on the way. I have tons of "adopted" nieces and nephews that I love and adore. I'm blessed with the best friends ever. I know I say that all the time, but its true. Friends I've known forever, friends I've known a few months. Friends that support me, let me scream and cry, that love me unconditionally. I'm just a nerd who, for some reason, God saw it fit to bless me with all of you. I'm forever grateful!! I only hope I can be half the friend ya'll are to me. Thank you all for encouraging me and loving me. Seriously BLESSED! <3

Monday I start a new chapter. I'm starting a new job! (I'll still be doing part time recruiting on the side.) It's a huge pay cut and I'll be even more broke than I am now but the growth potential is amazing and I'm excited!!! It's a fresh start and I'm looking forward to it.

So overall the past year has been full of growth for me. I've made mistakes I wish I could take back. I've not given it my all. I've fallen way short in a lot of things, but I survived. I made it. I lived through it. (Just gotta get through the 12th annual Christi day now...I'll blog about that later.) 

They say you never know what life will throw your way. But I'm content now and still kissing frogs.....

Date with D

We all know what a stellar time I had when I on-line dated last year. But at the recommendation of one of my favorite brothers, I got on the app Mutual. (I'm pretty sure it's a Mormon app, even though it doesn't say that.)

Anyways, I got on it and swiped up or down depending on who I liked and D and I matched. He lives in Vegas and was in Houston for work and thought "I'll just give it a try and see who I meet." Lucky him!! :)

We exchanged messages that night and then began to text the next day. He mentioned he had his 11 year old son with him (it's Christmas break, the kid flies for free on his buddy pass and so why not?!). He asked if it would be OK if he came along. I'm cool so I said yes and suggested we meet the next night (Thursday) at Jus Mac on Yale. (It's MACARONI and CHEESE HEAVEN and SO YUMMY!! You should go! I'd go right now if I didn't have my comfy pants on already! I might do Chick-Fil-A for dinner since I got a few gift cards for Christmas. Does my family get me or what!?!?)

As it turned out that Wednesday night, we both were at the Galleria! I was there with my beautiful bestie, Tiffany, her handsome hubby, Cameron, and their freaking adorable 3 children! He was there with his son ice skating. Crazy!

Anyways, we met up at Jus Mac at 7pm ish (Someone was running a few minutes late..I'll let you figure you who it was.) They both asked me what my favorite dish was.....HELLO ITS MAC and CHEESE!!!! I got the cheeseburger macaroni and cheese. His son, S, got the regular mac and cheese and D got the BBQ mac and cheese. 

His cute and talkative son took up most of the conversation (he even told me that he has a crush on a girl named K in his class!) I may or may not have given S my phone so he could snapchat away so D and I could talk. "Christi, look at this one! And this one!" It was cute!! S even made sure I had facetime so he and I can facetime! LOL!

The 3 of us shut Jus Mac down (ok it closed at 9pm whatever) and overall I had a great time. I would have liked to have talked to D more, but it is what it is. At least I know his kid liked me!!! :) D and I haven't really made any plans to see each other again, but we have been texting everyday. So who knows, I'd like to see him again (one on one) to see if he and I had a spark (especially since his son, S, and I are BFF)

I guess only time will tell. Until then, I am still kissing frogs....

Once upon a time...

So it's no secret that this has not been my year. To sum it up, I wrote a little story. Enjoy! :)

Girl meets Boy 10 years ago.
Girl and Boy stay in contact over the 10 years.
Boy calls Girl up and says "Let's give it a try" in December.
Girl agrees and Boy flies here the next day.
Girl has high hopes Boy is her prince.
Girl lets Boy move in with her (so NOT like Girl to do)
Boy "tries" to find a job. 
Girl fully supports Boy (flights home, new clothes, uber rides, phone bills, etc.)
Girl even pays for vacation/trip to meet Boy's family. (both flights, airbnb, scooter, uber, food)
Boy assures Girl he will pay her back. (if Boy was a man he would have paid Girl back)
Boy meets 2nd Girl in March and starts to date her too.
1st Girl finds out  at the end of May and questions Boy.
On Boy's trip home, Boy tells 1st Girl that SHE is the one he wants and is coming back to HER.
1st Girl stupidly believes Boy. (Boy wouldn't risk a 10+ year friendship would he?)
In June 1st Girl gets her heart STOMPED on. (20 years since Girl's last heartbreak)
Boy moves on with 2nd Girl.
2nd Girl finds out about 1st girl in August and contacts her.
1st Girl tells 2nd Girl everything. (1st Girl has NO reason to lie)
2nd Girl calls 1st Girl trash and takes Boy back.
2nd Girl even threatens 1st Girl and wants to fight her (are we in jr. high??)
1st girl blocks both crazies on all social media, texts, phone
Boy still tries to contact 1st Girl and calls her at work in October. 
Boy and 2nd Girl still talk trash about 1st Girl.
Boy is a FAT OLD UGLY TOAD!
1st Girl IS WAY BETTER OFF! :)
1st Girl hopes Boy and 2nd Girl each get what they deserve.

Now you might be wondering that 1st Girl would say to Boy. So I wrote a poem:

Roses are Red
Violets are Blue
You destroyed a bridge 
And owe me money too!

I hope you are happy 
In the life that you chose
You are Peter Pan
with Pinocchio's nose.

You can talk all you want to
From so far away
Please come here to say it
When pigs fly away.

You'll never be a man
At least not for me
I'm just elated
That you let me be.


I think that I have written this blog post at least 100 times. It feels good to finally have exactly what i want to say out there. I know that this is the final stitch in mending my heart and it feels GREAT!!! Please don't text, email, call or message me telling to let it go. I HAVE LET IT GO! I started this blog to document my dating life (the good, bad and ugly) and like it or not, this was part of my dating life. 

Stay tuned for my next post in the next few days about  a date I had last week.

Maybe in 2017 I will resume kissing frogs......

Best. WORST.Date part 1

So I posted on FB today asking for your best worst dates. Y'all have gone on some awful dates!!!! This one is J's! (My commentary will be in blue)

"I used to work the firework stands with my parents. This one guy had waited 6 months to see me again and ask me out. So Christmas time comes around and he see my mom and asks about me. He shares his number and I reach out to him. He invites me to his company ball, I go along as his date and have a blast! Everyone rants and raves about how awesome this guy is. We ended the night with a hug and a promise to see each other again. 

The second date I agreed to meet him at the skating rink.  He wanted to do something fun and get back to our younger years. 

When he arrives at the skating rink he hands me a brown paper bag (grocery sack) and it contained a present. I thought it was sweet but odd to get a gift so soon. As I'm unwrapping the gift I start to have horrible thoughts go through my mind. It's a very DUSTY Victoria Secret box. Inside was a piece of lingerie that he sprayed with his cologne. I was in shock and at a loss for words. He said I thought of you and thought you would enjoy this.  

(Who in the world gives lingerie to someone they have not even kissed yet! And it's DUSTY?!? How long was it in his closet!?!)

I had to find a way out of the date. I had a friend call me and act like there was an emergency with my boys. I tried to make a quick escape, but the poor guy kept asking me if he could go with me. And then taps on my window and says I'd love to see you again. (Hello, she lied about an emergency to get away from you! If it was a real emergency I'd be pissed! And you bought her lingerie! No she doesn't want to see you again!)

It took a few weeks of not answering for him to get the hint. He may have been a great guy....but....

Poor J! Looks like she is still kissing frogs! 

Single for Life

Recently I had the opportunity to help someone get through a tough break up. I truly felt for them as they tried and continue to try to navigate single waters again. Heartbreak SUCKS!!!

On my drive home today, I had the feeling that I might not ever get married. (I don't say this for pity or whatever so please don't text or message me saying "yes you will") I've said for a long time that I'm lucky to be the cool aunt that lives in the city, knows all the cool places to eat and goes on fun adventures. And for the most part, I think I am. I feel pretty blessed to have been on some crazy adventures thus far. (I really want to hang glide next!)

But not getting married and not having kids isn't all that bad. I have 2 adorable nieces of my own and about a dozen adopted nieces and nephews thanks to some amazing friends!!! 

Ya know, I really thought that I was done with dating. I thought He was the one. I waited 10 years for a chance and when it finally came, all I got was a few months. That's been the hardest thing to accept....feeling short changed. Nothing I can do about it now, not that I even want to change anything. Are there things I wish I had done differently? Absolutely! Things I should of said/not said....but now I know. I know that we just weren't a fit and that I needed to date him to see it. "The one that got away" is no more. Yeah it still hurts when certain songs come on the radio, or I hear jokes and think of all kinds of stuff to tell him. But that's just the way it is. 

So here we are back to me never getting married. Besides it takes A LOT to get my attention and even more to keep it. And I get bored easy. (I mean we have met me and are familiar with my dating history!) Will I go out if asked? Sure. But I'm just not looking for anything. There is a meme that says "I'm awesome and you will have to freaking amazing to change that!" However, I'm not looking for anyone to change that. I like that I can come and go as I please. I can eat all the carbs I want to! I can have fast food every meal......yeah I know! I do that already! I don't have to check in with anyone, except my mom and I can do whatever I want to. Not to shabby for Christi! (However an extra income would be nice!)

So there it is...for now I am just going to hang out and continue being awesome! 

Until then, I am still kissing frogs.......

Update on my life and date in AZ

Well, it’s certainly been a while since I have blogged. He and I broke up. It happens. That’s really all I’m going to say about it. On to the next! J

A few months ago on my facebook, I asked for the best pick-up lines ever received to be posted. OMG! That was too funny! Do it! Ask your friends the best worst pick-up lines. There are some amazingly bad ones!

At the urging of a friend, I signed up for LDSSingles.com………yeah……….I know……….yep! All of the guys on there are………..well let’s just say not at all what I am looking for! Although, I have seen several of my guy friends on there. LOL Not going to call anyone out….but you know who you are! J

Last week I went to Phoenix for Diversity and Inclusion Training. (I even got an award!! Jealous!?!?) My friend, M, lives outside of Phoenix and we had been talking about getting together for years! (We met several years ago on LDSLinkUp and the timing had just never worked for us to get together.) So we scheduled a date for Wednesday night.

Before I get into the date, let me back up to the afternoon. We arrived in Phoenix around 12 and after having lunch with my cousin, I went to the hotel pool to worship the AZ sun. This small group of guys from Indiana joined me. They were there for work or golf or something. We struck up a conversation and they invited me and my co-worker (aka work wife) to go to the bar with them later. I declined, making the mistake of telling them I had a date. The questions IMMEDIATELY started. Who is this guy? How do you know him? Where does he live? What does he do? Are you going to Netflix and chill? Is he a serial killer? How do you know he’s not? What time is he coming? REALLY!?!?? I think they felt a little better because he was picking me up at the hotel, I think they just wanted to spy on him.

M was supposed to pick me up at 5 so about 4:30 I went and got changed and ready. He showed up and we left. (I found out later that he had walked through the pool area so my new friends were able to fully check him out. They approved!) Since I had never been to Phoenix before, I had no idea of anything to do. I was completely at M’s mercy! We had dinner at this place called Cornish Pasty. It was actually really good! I had no idea what a pasty was. Not too shabby for Christi! We left there and we found a mural! Completely by accident! (If you follow me on insta, then you have seen me post pics of murals all over Houston.) We u-turned, hopped out and snapped a few pics. It was pretty cool!!

Then we drove over to Mesa to check out the Mesa, AZ Temple (HELLO! MORMON!!). It was gorgeous! We got there as the sun was setting so we were able to get some great shots of the Temple in the reflection pool. (We even saw 2 sets of newlyweds! They were obviously GORGEOUS! I mean have you ever seen an ugly bride? Bridesmaid dresses? Yes, but brides? No) We took pics in the cactus garden and on a few pieces of reclaimed wood logs on Temple grounds. We walked past the Visitors Center where we saw a few missionaries. They gave us the once over and just let us walk by. (I guess they figured a guy and a girl modestly dressed at the Temple were on a date and were Mormon!)

Then he drove me back the hotel, walked me to my door and we hugged bye. (There was definitely no kiss as he had onions on his pasty. Come on guys! Onions = no goodnight kiss....at least not from me!) Overall it was a good, fun date. Although while driving on the freeway he was going a tad slower than the traffic (40 in a 60) but whatever. If you live in the Phoenix area and are looking for a  GREAT guy to date, I know one! 

So that's it. My work training wrapped up Friday afternoon and Saturday morning at 12:30am, I was back in Houston. HOME SWEET HOME!

For now, I am still kissing frogs....